Calling all heroes…
No, I don’t believe in fairy godmothers or magical spells that put you to sleep or even true love’s kiss. I don’t believe in trolls or frogs that become princes. I don’t even buy into the idea that we will all live happily ever after with not a care in the world to ever again trouble our now perfect lives.
I just came from seeing the movie Mirror Mirror. A slightly new twist on the classic story of Snow White packed with all of the familiar characters and story lines. The wicked step-mother, the seven dwarves, Snow White, and of course the dashing young Prince. While the costuming was spectacular (I absolutely love good costuming) and the characters were fun, this retelling was everything that could be expected from a story that has been told and retold hundreds of times.
With the general story line being the same as what has always been there was a slight difference that I picked up on and have actually begun to pick up on in other retellings of other popular fairytales. I don’t think that many people pick up on this subtle change that seems to be permeating these beloved stories because it is a change that has been gradually seeping not just into fiction but also into our everyday lives.
It is a change that makes me want to scream, “WAIT! STOP! Go back. That’s not how it happens.”
That change is the role reversal of the valiant warrior prince and the beautiful damsel in distress.
In so many movies and so many retellings they have reconstructed the story to where the young maiden or the princess is actually the one who ends up saving the prince. Each heroine is portrayed as strong, independent, and perfectly capable of taking care of herself. As a matter of fact she’s capable of not only taking care of herself she is also able to deal the final blow to the great villain that the young prince just couldn’t get to in time.
Our brave knights have been stripped of their armor and upstaged by the very women they are trying to save.
Ladies, have you ever dreamed of saving a man’s life? Have you ever wanted to fight to the death to person who would harm the man that you love? I imagine that if your anything like me your fantasies are played out very differently. I frequently fantasize about Prince Charming saving my life in some grand and spectacular scenario. “Ma’am, that car almost hit you! If I hadn’t swept you off of your feet and pulled you out of the road you would most certainly be dead!” Yeah, that’s more how I picture things. Not the other way around.
My absolute favorite display of affection, whether in movies or in reality, is the man kissing the woman on the forehead. It is a powerful gesture that not only says, “I love you” but it says, “I care about you”, and “I will protect you”.
Women want men to make them feel safe and loved. And men want to love and protect. It is who we are and it is how we were created. It is not an issue of weakness versus strength. It is not a matter of man versus woman. We are equal parts with very different roles.
We see very clearly in Genesis 2 that God created male and female in His image as equal partners but He did create the male to be the head and the female to be the helper.
The world has told us women that to let men fight for you, and to protect you is a sign of weakness and inequality. In this we have looked straight at our valiant Knights and said, “your services are no longer required.” As a result our men have taken off their armor, dropped their head and their swords, and have turned around in defeat and rejection. We reject their chivalry and then blame them for being passive.
For me, I do not want to rob any man of their chance to brave and to be chivalrous. I am not going to steal the fight or the victory from the man who chooses to fight for me. The man desires to woo and the woman wants to be wooed. And although a strong woman may very well pick up the sword to slay the dragon in her heart she really wants to see the brave warrior to step in front of her to deal that final blow.
Yes, I believe in fairytales. And I anticipate the day when my brave warrior, my valiant knight, my charming Prince, finally discovers me in the tower and carries me off into the sunset.
I am a Lady in Waiting. All heroes are welcomed to apply!